What keeps us for changing? First the decision needs to be that you do not want to stay where you are, and have the intention to be or do something different and leave the chaos that you are in behind. Courage is needed to leave the old behind, faith is required to build something new, and wisdom for knowing how to create something else.
Then there is the process of looking at where you are and what you did to create that, and what belief, feeling or emotions need to be changed for those are stumbling blocks that keep you stuck.
Let go of those, find peace within your heart. Let go of the resentments and regrets that has been created because of unwanted things in your life.
Get the teachings of the positive, love yourself enough to make the changes to be and to live the Divine being that you truly are.