In order to forgive fully, we need to stop creating, repeating and identifying with what created the hurt and the reason that caused it.
When we hurt ourselves or someone else hurts us consciously or unconsciously and it is not resolved it is easy to go into complaining and into repeating the story over and over, this leads to repeating the repeat of getting hurt over and over again.
If we harbor bitterness and resentment we are only hurting ourselves, and this makes it hard to stay heart centered.
It is our choice to forgive and to alleviate ourselves of the burden of the hurt. By choosing to forgive is to be free of the past and not perceiving ourselves as always a victim.
Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves, and our forgiveness of others is an extension of our readiness to let go of our own pain. Getting to this point begins with fully accepting what has happened. Through this acceptance, we allow ourselves to feel and process our emotions.
Sometimes this can take time, so allow what time you need. But it is a daily process you must choose to do, because holding onto pain and hurt and resentments only causing pain and suffering within ourselves, leading to pain, discomfort and illness within our bodies.
Clean and clear the hatred, pain, resentments and forgive first yourself, then others. Not condoning their actions but guide yourself to the understanding of why it was created in your life. What feelings are you attracting, that this happens to you. Change that part, forgive that part and let your heart come from that Divine spark that you are and allow kindness, love, compassion to be the way you are treated and the way you treat others.